{"id":11889,"date":"2016-12-12T15:29:41","date_gmt":"2016-12-12T15:29:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/remstim.de\/heartbreak-what-happens-in-our-body\/"},"modified":"2023-09-14T15:33:29","modified_gmt":"2023-09-14T15:33:29","slug":"heartbreak-what-happens-in-our-body","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/remstim.com\/en\/heartbreak-what-happens-in-our-body\/","title":{"rendered":"Heartbreak – what happens in our body?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Heartbreak – negative thoughts, a state of emotional emergency and strong physical discomfort torment us.<\/h1>\n

\"HeartbreakViolent heartbreak makes our body go crazy. It is accompanied by the powerful feeling of hopelessness. But is there really such a thing as heartbreak after a breakup or do we just imagine it all? In the search for answers to the reason for the breakup and solutions to our heartbreak, we encounter more and more questions, most of which are about our past love and leave us permanently brooding. Although most describe the pain of love in a similar way, everyone goes through times of grief and separation pain<\/a> in a very individual and personal way.<\/p>\n

What is heartbreak? – When feelings get to us!<\/h2>\n

Love is something wonderful. There is no stronger affection and appreciation that a person can have for another person than genuine and deep love. From a biological point of view, the feeling of love can be explained very well; various messenger substances play a role here. For example, dopamine causes euphoria, adrenaline excitement, while cortisol and endorphin trigger intoxicating feelings of happiness and a deep sense of well-being. From this knowledge, we can deduce what happens in our body when we are heartbroken. Because our hormonal balance also plays an essential role in the pain of separation<\/a>.<\/p>\n

But, while one fears his heart could shatter at any moment, the other feels a heavy stone in his stomach. A third, on the other hand, feels disappointment and sadness for only a short time, but quickly gets over it.<\/p>\n

Why can different people’s reactions to a breakup<\/a> or the mere fear of an impending end to our relationship be so different and, on the other hand, so similar?<\/p>\n

An explanation is offered by the model of somatic markers according to the famous brain researcher Antonio Damasio<\/a>, which explains from a neurobiological point of view, despite the individuality of felt love pain, what happens in our body when heartbreak overcomes us.<\/p>\n

Understanding love pain: What happens in our body!<\/h3>\n

When we feel sorrow or grieve for someone, our body is under a lot of stress. During this time, our body is in a state of emergency. In the case of lovesickness, this is by no means different from other mourning processes: for we mourn the (once) beloved person who is now gone, both emotionally and physically. The changes within us are like a roller coaster ride of emotions – constantly going up and down. This hormone interplay causes increasing stress within us, to which many of us usually react by crying. <\/a>And that’s a good thing. Because crying is an important process to relieve stress in grief situations and heartbreak. It helps us overcome heartbreak and cope with the pain of separation.<\/p>\n\t\t

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When tears flow, they are formed above the eye, in the lacrimal gland. This, even if we do not cry, is a necessary process. This is because it keeps the eye moist with tear fluid every time you blink. The cornea of our eyes is thus protected from drying out. The tears formed not only contain salt, they are also enriched with protein. When we grieve, our bodies produce a relatively large amount of proteins that need to be flushed out of the body. This protein production is a response to stress. Therefore, we should not hold back tears.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\n

Intense heartbreak – when the heart aches and the soul burns<\/h4>\n

But the fact that we cry when our hearts ache does not explain what exactly is going on in our bodies. Somatic markers are responsible for our intense feeling of grief, through which our body memory makes itself felt and signals us that the experience, the separation represents a threat to us and our emotional I and that we should arm ourselves. Our emotional memory tries to protect us. Love pains are very similar to strong feelings of anxiety, if they do not even represent them in most cases: because those who suffer from heartache are usually afraid:<\/p>\n