The comprehensive guide to EMDR self-coaching

Learn to noticeably reduce stress & strain. Download the EMDR self-help guide now.(more...)

The comprehensive guide to EMDR self-coaching

Learn to noticeably reduce stress & strain. Download the EMDR self-help guide now.(more...)

Therapist, coach, trainer and inventor of the EMDR glasses REMSTIM 3000 and the self-coaching method

Thomas Buhl

Alternative practitioner for psychotherapy, EMDR trauma therapist, EMDR coach and trainer as well as developer of the EMDR glasses REMSTIM 3000 and the self-coaching method

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Welcome, I look forward to your visit and your interest. Let me briefly tell you how I came to develop the EMDR self-coaching method and the EMDR glasses REMSTIM 3000.

Before I learned about EMDR, I believed that I was always powerless to endure any of my emotions – especially the depressing ones and their fluctuations.

Stress, grief and worries, existential fears and fears of failure in everyday life, interpersonal conflicts, a lack of purpose, demotivation, sadness; the list of emotional, mental and physical conditions that all too often have a negative impact on our lives is long.

Today I know that we are not helplessly at the mercy of our negative emotional states. My experience with many dear people who have confided in me so far taught me that hardly any of us have to endure our emotional burdens, such as stress or worry, for long. No longer than the moment we need to become aware of it. After that, we have a real choice and can help ourselves.

EMDR, the rapid eye movement method, makes it possible in so many situations. For years I have been using this method in coaching and especially in self-coaching. And then, while I was personally treating my clients with EMDR as a coach, I came up with the idea of showing people how they could help themselves in the moment of extreme stress.

This gave rise to the EMDR self-coaching method and the instructions for EMDR self-coaching in 6 steps.

What was still missing at that time was a handy and reliable EMDR device that stimulated the user externally while he coached himself. It turned out that an external visual stimulus in particular puts each of us in that helpful position in which we can devote ourselves to our issues in complete peace.

There was nothing to be found on the market at the time. So I developed the EMDR goggles REMSTIM 3000, which simulate the typical waving hand movements of an EMDR coach. At the same time, the goggles obscure the user’s field of vision, which helps them focus their attention on their innermost self during self-coaching. This is where the positive effects of EMDR self-coaching can be felt in the form of beneficial changes in your own thoughts and emotions.

Thanks to the EMDR glasses REMSTIM 3000 and my instructions(free download), EMDR self-coaching is quick and easy to use for almost anyone. Nevertheless, I am regularly asked whether I would be willing to teach the special handling of this effective method and the REMSTIM 3000. Yes, I am happy to do so.

In my 1×1-INTENSIV-Workshops: EMDR self-coaching with the REMSTIM 3000, I teach the 6 steps of self-coaching.

In moments of intense experience of particular emotional stress, we carry within us at the same moment the great opportunity for lasting change. For it is above all the small and recurring sensitivities and emotional fluctuations of everyday life that can indirectly show us the way to more serenity, conflict stability, mental fitness and creativity. We just have to walk the path.

Thanks to EMDR self-coaching, we are able to regulate ourselves at precisely such moments and trigger the change towards more courage and confidence in our own abilities. There are so many rich and beneficial experiences and opportunities waiting for us in life. Let’s not let them pass us by unused.

Yours sincerely, Thomas Buhl

Article by Thomas P.H. Buhl in the magazine Sein, issue July/2014

Read online the latest article by Thomas P.H. Buhl in the magazine Sein on www.sein.de: “Self-coaching with EMDR*: Almost every day we experience stress and unpleasant moments… Thomas Buhl has developed – based on trauma research – a self-coaching method with EMDR glasses, which…[more]

You can find the download version of Sein magazine, July/2014 issue here: https://www.sein.de/print-archiv/juli-2014/

Thomas Buhl is a member of the European Society for Trauma Therapy and EMDR e.V.(more).

EMDR device REMSTIM 3000

Designed for EMDR self-coaching: with the REMSTIM 3000 EMDR goggles, effective self-help with EMDR becomes an easy exercise!(Experiences)

Coaching Information

Frequently Asked Questions about Coaching

Is EMDR online coaching really possible, even if we are not in the same room?

Yes. EMDR online coaching is now a proven and viable form of support. What is crucial is not the shared location, but a clearly guided process, a reliable relationship, and the targeted application of the EMDR method. Many people even find working remotely particularly safe because they can stay in their familiar environment. The spatial distance often creates exactly the inner protection that makes it easier to address sensitive topics.

Do I need to have prior experience with EMDR to use online coaching?

No. You do not need any prior knowledge. EMDR online coaching is aimed at people who want to work with EMDR for the first time, as well as those who have already gained their own experience. In coaching, you will be guided step by step through the process. You don’t have to “know” or prepare anything – orientation, structure and security arise from working together.

Do I have to openly express personal or very private content?

No. Your topics remain your topics. In EMDR online coaching, it is possible to process content covertly, i.e. without expressing details. You decide at any time what you want to share and what you don’t. The process can still be effectively supported because the coach guides you through the individual steps via structure, timing and clear signals. Many people find this relieving and respectful.

How does an EMDR session work in online coaching?

You are in continuous contact with the EMDR coach during the coaching – by phone or video. The coach gives clear signals, explains the individual steps and accompanies you attentively through the process. When an EMDR intervention is pending, follow it at your own pace. Nothing happens abruptly or uncontrollably. The coach remains present, regulating and approachable throughout the session.

Do I need a special device for this?

No. A special device can be helpful, but is not a prerequisite. What is crucial is that the bilateral stimulation is applied safely and the process is well guided. Whether and which aids are useful will be discussed individually and without obligation. There is no need to use EMDR glasses. There are alternative and reliable techniques.

Can EMDR online coaching replace therapy?

No. EMDR online coaching is coaching and not psychotherapy. It requires normal mental and physical resilience and is aimed at stressful topics and inner processes that are not classified as a disease requiring treatment. Should it become apparent during the conversation that therapeutic support would be useful, this will be addressed openly and responsibly.

What if I'm worried about losing control in the process?

This concern is understandable and very human. In EMDR online coaching, you retain control at all times. You determine the pace and depth. The coach pays attention to stability, orientation and clear steps. Working remotely is experienced by many as protective because it provides security and at the same time enables professional support.

Who accompanies the EMDR online coaching?

The EMDR online coaching is personally accompanied by Thomas Buhl. He is a non-medical practitioner for psychotherapy, an experienced EMDR therapist and coach, and the developer of the EMDR self-coaching method and the EMDR glasses REMSTIM 3000. His work is characterized by clarity, calm and respectful process support.