Create goal clarity & resolve conflicts with EMDR in self-coaching.
Having a clear goal in mind is a sublime and motivating feeling. The vision of a changed own future plays the decisive role. You yourself reshape your environment into the desired state. Just imagining how the change, the positive end state, is achieved through personal action is a source of pride.
A goal forms in our mind: We see in our mind’s eye the time frame in which we want to achieve it. We set partial goals and their degree of fulfillment. And we anticipate potential obstacles that need to be cleared out of the way. And get to work.
All this has an impact on our will to perform and our well-being. Goals are important for our psychological stability. Goals give us structure and meaning. We equate their achievement with happiness.
But woe betide anyone who no longer has goals or fails to achieve them more often. So some people don’t even set out for something new anymore. For him, just the idea of losing again is too frustrating. Mental blocks slow him down and create cunning strategies for supposed protection.
Then there are those who pursue countless goals until you forget how to tell that they have achieved them. And impossible goals protect from defeat, but also do not make happy.
For a clear goal and its fulfillment, the absence of ambivalence is necessary. Ambivalence is the well-known feeling of duality. At least two things, or many, are equally important and much more crucial: none of them seems compatible with the others. People who have such a feeling inside them can rarely make up their minds or try to take care of everything at the same time. Thus, it either forces man into inaction or drives him into actionism.
Psychologically, he perceives it as a conflict. Both as an interior with himself and his mutually exclusive desires and as an exterior with his environment, who can only bear his dithering or twirling around shaking their heads.
With whatever intensity one experiences the ambiguity of one’s goals, everyone likes to remember how refreshing one’s own unclouded clarity of purpose feels. Without doubts and conflicts, we enter the path and take the first unwavering steps.
By means of Rapid Eye Movement Stimulation – basic intervention of EMDR – there is a possibility to soothe exuberant feelings and reduce emotions of doubt. Even ambivalence can give way to a new ability to make decisions and important things can finally be recognized as such. All of this creates space for new positive thoughts that inspire our actions. In such moments, wishes germinate particularly well. Old ones awaken anew and previously unthought-of ones are only just born.
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