Those who want to free themselves from negative emotions and stressful thoughts usually use one of 2 ways: either they seek help from a third party or they try to help themselves. Those who choose to see a coach take the first approach and seek advice from an outsider. Anyone who decides to do self-coaching wants to get themselves out of a predicament. Whichever path he chooses, it is usually accompanied by a desire to do it immediately. For those who have made the decision to change something, in most cases want the change to happen immediately. So why wait? With self-coaching, there is no reason to wait. Coaching with a coach for the first time is different. Because now is the time to answer specific questions:
Questions about coaching with the coach
- Who can help me?
- Do I know a coach or someone who can recommend a coach?
- Is this coach suitable for my request?
- Do I reach my coach now, at this moment, and does he have time for me now?
- How long do I have to wait for an appointment with my coach?
- How long do I want to wait for an appointment? After all, what does it mean to me if I have to wait days or even weeks for an appointment with my coach?
Very well suited for self-coaching are just our everyday sensitivities
However, it is often the small and recurring stresses of everyday life that get to us, but which we do not consider to be sufficiently serious to talk to a coach about and even spend money on. Which is a pity! Because precisely these small issues often reflect the sore points of our being. Here in particular, it is worthwhile to exert a positive influence through self-coaching. In such cases, EMDR self-coaching is an excellent way to work through the acute issue within a few minutes in a self-coaching session. We do not have to wait and can use our involvement immediately and unadulterated. We pick up what is and work with it. With the help of the EMDR goggles REMSTIM 3000, for example, 2-3 applications with a duration of 30 seconds each often help to open up to a new perspective on the subject and thus to calm and reorganize one’s own emotions. And what’s a minute and a half of “guided eye training” compared to a day full of bad moods? Of course, self-coaching also comes with questions. Anyone who wants to coach themselves might want to answer the following questions:
Self coaching questions
- Is it my own free choice to coach myself on this topic?
- Am I currently resilient enough to withstand any extra stresses that may arise while I am coaching my subject self?
- Do I feel myself to be in a mentally and emotionally stable condition?
- Do I want to work through the stressful issue on my own in an EMDR self-coaching session without professional help from a coach or therapist?